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Saturday, January 19, 2019

Remaining Happy, When You Just Want to Scream


Hello 1.19.19.
So fun to type out 9's! Yes, 9's. 9's representing 9 years of battling and living with Myeloma.

My topic of this post was going to be philosophizing about Happiness. Being Happy. Remaining Happy. Finding Happiness. Maintaining Happiness while dealing with a terminal illness, treatments, and being sick. I was going to write all about Seeking Happiness and Remaining Happy while processing life's Disappointments, Lost Dreams and Goals. I was going to write about Persevering even when life throws you big curves you never envisioned, yet committing to always move forward with Positivity and Gratefulness, trying to never lose that sunshiny optimism, and the "glass half full, vs half empty" perspective.

I was going to write about Happiness since people always say..."Be Happy! Always be happy." I just want to Scream!!! How much "happier" can anyone be, under my circumstances! I am so very happy and grateful for my 9 years of survival. Happy for so much, for (almost) everyone and everything in my life... OMG, I am one of the most "happy", positive, lift everyone else up, people in the world. That was my "business", my "mission" in life as a Counselor. Always helping others see potentials and strive for them. Always helping others remain positive against the worst challenges. Always helping others analyze themselves, their circumstances, and how to move forward, improve oneself... Onwards and upwards towards your personal rainbow. Always moving forward, always looking for the sunshine. Always looking for the glitter in the muddy waters.

But my life was stolen from me 9 years ago. And each year has been more challenging than the previous. Ah, Suck It Up Buttercup, right?! Life isn't all about it all working out all the time. Everyone is challenged. Everyone has dark clouds. Everyone has so much on their plate, often buried very deep within... Early on in my career, make that in college and grad school, I fully deeply realized that EVERYONE HAS "SOMETHING". Everyone has Challenges. Everyone has Battles and deep battle Scars. Everyone has a Story. Everyone has ghosts in their closets. Everyone has damage. Everyone has had to deal with, overcome, SOMETHING... but it's all about degrees and subjectivity, how those challenges are dealt with individually, and how the person moves forward,... or Not, in life.

We all have something, we all have mountains to climb,... and things can always always always be so much worse then our story..... What happens to us is personal, and we process it personally, subjectively. How I react to something is entirely different than how the next person does. Our battles and challenges really shouldn't be compared to others. But we do. All our plates are full. It's a matter of degree, and again, how one processes obstacles, disappointments, physical and psychological challenges. Some of us can regularly find the positive in the negative, the humor in the tragedy, the sun in the dark clouds. Some can't. Some of us can find the best in the worst. Some become the worst as a result of challenges and disappointments. Just look at society, the world. There's so much anger, hate, directed at self and others. Some can overcome and heal, others can't. Some move forward, others won't allow themselves to move forward. Yes, this life is a continual challenge, and the older I get, the more I realize how complicated it all is, and how it seems to become more complicated all the time. I naively thought the older I got, the simpler life would become... wellllll.... that's what I had "planned" on...

Yes, I was going to write all about Happiness and being Happy. I was going to write about how being positive, grateful, optimistic, happy, looking on the bright side is healing and life sustaining... it really is...  But my challenges have become very challenging for me. I am processing disappointment, a lost life, lost dreams, lost goals and plans, lost abilities and capabilities. Of course I'm always thinking about how amazing 9 years of survival is, yet, how scary it is too, as it means the longer I live, the more treatment options I've used up, and the more I wonder about what will keep me alive, when Myeloma overpowers the current treatment I'm on, and it fails...  I am still Happy, but honestly, if you really want to know.... I have a lot of anger, frustration, disappointment, and ask WHY ME often. Why me, after how hard I've worked all my life. Why me, when I've overcome so much in life prior to Myeloma. Why me, why more challenges. Why at 50, terminal, incurable cancer. Why wasn't I given a break? Or rather a reward for all I did all my life. Why wasn't my 2nd half of life, full of realized dreams, goals and some light-hearted fun. Yes beneath all my positivity, happiness, gratefulness, amazement... I am sad, mad, angry, shocked. I feel sabotaged, undermined, tricked by the Universe. Yet, the minute I write this, say this, I feel I shouldn't... as I have so much that is Good in my life. So much to be Grateful for. So much Not to be angry about. So much to be Appreciative for. Ah, this life of opposites for me...

Happiness. Gratefulness. Appreciative. For what it once was. For what it is. For what it might be. Yet angry, sad, overwhelmed for what it is. Really really sad and disappointed for what could have been. Yes, my life as I knew it, was stolen from me. Myeloma and treatments have so limited me and what I can do... And I will end here, as I just don't want to wallow in negativity... but so you know... all my thoughts and feelings are exacerbated and exaggerated exponentially by my husband's decline with Alzheimers. I think, no... I know... my extremes of emotions is due to the sadness I feel regarding our stolen lives and the daily complexity of our lives, with me becoming his caregiver, caretaker, his cognition. Yes I know... it could be so much worse.... But it is so sad, so intense, so disappointing...

Ok... enough of all that...
My Beta2Microglobulin results slipped through late yesterday, and... and... yessssss... Good News!
And even more good news has come in! See below. I should probably delete this post, and go back to writing about HAPPINESS!!! As I sure feel it now, thank you chemicals for working and pummeling those mean and devious myeloma cells!
Just a few months ago, it was as high as 2.9!!! So within all the negative craziness of our lives, I'm guessing my current triplet of Velcade, Cyclophosphamide-Cytoxan, Dex steroids is doing some serious pummeling!!! Thank goodness for some positive news... hopefully... but who knows what my IGA is doing...
Wish Kaiser hadn't "upgraded" their online view of labs, as it's difficult to capture a retrospective screenshot of where my past results were. Boooo on them. Anyway, I will see my Dr on Monday Jan 21, and have my full Myeloma status labs back then. Check back friends, as I will add those labs to this post, so we don't have to wait for my 1.29.19 post :)) 


Thank you for reading, caring and commenting. I hope my honesty and candor is interesting, helpful, insightful, and thought provoking for you... Hoping your life, your challenges, your mountains are manageable, or even inspirational and rewarding for you.


"Happy" doggies, and cat video :))






  1. Thank you for being so open and honest and asking the questions everyone asks. Why? Why you? One thing you mentioned about the longer you live the more treatment options you use up, I view differently. I’m hoping that that one great treatment, the one that is going to make all the difference, is coming down the pipeline on its way to you. That’s my fervent prayer. Love your openness, love your spirit, love YOU.

    1. Aww Thank You Fern for reading, commenting, and appreciating my deeper perspective. Yes, it's true, I am almost at the end of the FDA approved chemos, and when I become refractory to this triplet I'm on... not sure what the plan will be... scary to me! And clinical trials are scary, as I personally won't have "control" of the dosage... Thank you so much for your continual support, prayers and comments :))
      Your life inspires me, and I would love nothing more than to join you and Greg for a hike one day! Thank you sweet friend xoxo


My Story... How my MM was diagnosed

October/November/December 2009...

Most of my life I was VERY presumptuous about being healthy, taking my (mostly) GOOD health for granted...
I was committed to annual check-ups for all of us, and so late October 2009, my daughter and I went for our annual and very routine physicals.

Surprise, surprise... my routine blood tests revealed extreme Anemia, significant White and Red Cell issues, low Platelets, and a variety of other CBC red flags! I was (stupidly) not worried when my GP doc left repeated phone messages to contact him, and when we did speak, I (stupidly) requested postponement of his referral appointment to the Hematology Dept until the end of the Fall academic term.

Arriving for my first appointment Dec 14, 2009, I was confronted with the check-in sign that read: "Hematology/Oncology"... What? Nooooo! not me... I must be in the WRONG place! And so my diagnosis journey began with vials and vials of blood drawn "stat", urgent Dr consultations, a surprise and painful Bone Marrow Biopsy, a full body Skeletal Scan, more blood tests stat, and then on 12.30.2009... THE revealing meeting... the "huh-what" moment ... the confirmation diagnosis that I, Julie, have CANCER!!!

Happy New Year to me, I just learned a new vocabulary word:
Multiple Myeloma!!! MM, Multiple Mye-what-loma!!!

January - June 2010

My medical metamorphosis began.
I read, and read, and read and researched and researched MM. I trusted my expert Oncology/Hematology team's plan and began my "New Normal" as a cancer patient.
My treatment plan was developed to include powerful Dexemthesone steroids paired with Revlimid chemotherapy, with the plan to be hospitalized for an Autologous Stem Cell Transplant July 2010.

I began living "one day at a time" like never before.
Jim was a wreck. Alissa and Scott were stunned; family and friends shocked.

Me... Cowgirl Up! I got back in the saddle and knew I was in for the ride of my life!
I did well on my initial pill-form Revlimid Chemo, "roid-rage" Dex Steroids and other supportive meds. I am forever deeply grateful and appreciative for all the love and support from everyone in my personal and professional life! I thank all of you for working along with me, and allowing me to continue to lead a semi "normal" life!
YOU have helped save my life!

My treatment trail ride forks to City of Hope hospital as I will saddle up beginning June 9, 2010 for a new rodeo called an Autologous Stem Cell Transplant!
Ye-Ha, let the adventure begin!

Chemical Warfare...

January 2010 - May 2010:
My initial chemo regimen:

Pill form Chemo= Revlimid (10mg, 15mg capsules)
Pill form Dexamethasone Steroids (40 mg, 4 days on, 4 days off!
Omeprazole for steroid acid reflux
Mepron (looks like yellow finger paint) Anti-fungal, Anti-viral, etc for my very compromised immune system
.81 Aspirin to prevent DVT, Revlimid complications
Allopurinol- keeping the kidneys healthy
Acyclovir- anti-Shingles, anti-viral

June 2010:
High dose IV Cytoxan chemo
Neupogen to build up stem cells for Apheresis, stem cell harvest, which was very successful, as City of Hope was able to collect 9.5 million of my own stem cells

July 2010 Hospitalization:
Two days of high dose Melphalan chemo
Then July 5, 2010 = my Autologous Stem Cell transplant infusion!

And you can read my whole story from that point forward in this blog!

What is multiple myeloma?

What is multiple myeloma?

Cancer starts when cells in the body begin to grow out of control. Cells in nearly any part of the body can become cancer, and can spread to other areas of the body. To learn more about how cancers start and spread, see What Is Cancer?

Multiple myeloma is a cancer formed by malignant plasma cells. Normal plasma cells are found in the bone marrow and are an important part of the immune system.

The immune system is made up of several types of cells that work together to fight infections and other diseases. Lymphocytes (lymph cells) are the main cell type of the immune system. The major types of lymphocytes are T cells and B cells.

When B cells respond to an infection, they mature and change into plasma cells. Plasma cells make the antibodies (also called immunoglobulins) that help the body attack and kill germs. Lymphocytes are in many areas of the body, such as lymph nodes, the bone marrow, the intestines, and the bloodstream. Plasma cells, however, are mainly found in the bone marrow. Bone marrow is the soft tissue inside some hollow bones. In addition to plasma cells, normal bone marrow has cells that make the different normal blood cells.

When plasma cells become cancerous and grow out of control, they can produce a tumor called a plasmacytoma. These tumors generally develop in a bone, but they are also rarely found in other tissues. If someone has only a single plasma cell tumor, the disease is called an isolated (or solitary) plasmacytoma. If someone has more than one plasmacytoma, they have multiple myeloma.

Multiple myeloma is characterized by several features, including:

Low blood counts

In multiple myeloma, the overgrowth of plasma cells in the bone marrow can crowd out normal blood-forming cells, leading to low blood counts. This can cause anemia – a shortage of red blood cells. People with anemia become pale, weak, and fatigued. Multiple myeloma can also cause the level of platelets in the blood to become low (called thrombocytopenia). This can lead to increased bleeding and bruising. Another condition that can develop is leukopenia – a shortage of normal white blood cells. This can lead to problems fighting infections.

Bone and calcium problems

Myeloma cells also interfere with cells that help keep the bones strong. Bones are constantly being remade to keep them strong. Two major kinds of bone cells normally work together to keep bones healthy and strong. The cells that lay down new bone are called osteoblasts. The cells that break down old bone are called osteoclasts. Myeloma cells make a substance that tells the osteoclasts to speed up dissolving the bone. Since the osteoblasts do not get a signal to put down new bone, old bone is broken down without new bone to replace it. This makes the bones weak and they break easily. Fractured bones are a major problem in people with myeloma. This increase in bone break-down can also raise calcium levels in the blood. (Problems caused by high calcium levels are discussed in the section “How is multiple myeloma diagnosed?”)


Abnormal plasma cells do not protect the body from infections. As mentioned before, normal plasma cells produce antibodies that attack germs. For example, if you developed pneumonia, normal plasma cells would produce antibodies aimed at the specific bacteria that were causing the illness. These antibodies help the body attack and kill the bacteria. In multiple myeloma, the myeloma cells crowd out the normal plasma cells, so that antibodies to fight the infection can’t be made. The antibody made by the myeloma cells does not help fight infections. That’s because the myeloma cells are just many copies of the same plasma cell – all making copies of the same exact (or monoclonal) antibody.

Kidney problems

The antibody made by myeloma cells can harm the kidneys. This can lead to kidney damage and even kidney failure.